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Oh, where do I begin! Other holistic fertility programs might talk a good game, but the focus is never really on your whole life and true balance and health and what you actually need and want.

Yes, their suggestions might be natural, and yes, they might technically be “good for you” on some level.  I mean, sure seeds have good fats and fiber, but I promise, you don't have to eat like a squirrel to "fix" your estrogen levels - that's NUTS (sorry, I couldn't resist).  Plus, you shouldn't feel guilty if you eat a donut sometimes too - eat that donut, make that donut a meditation and enjoy the heck out of it!   

When fertility advice is overwhelming and not in alignment with your values, time, energy, actual finances, sense of joy and more, they never really get to the heart of the issue.

Oh, and infertility is a medical condition too... so it's about finding the best combination of care and big picture health TOGETHER.

That's why there is no other fertility program like TBYW in the world because TBYW is about all of this. For real. I promise you will like your life MORE right now if you do this program (and be more likely to have a baby).

The name of this program is "The Baby You Want," and the baby you want is one born from health, feeling educated, and getting empowered. Whatever path you need to travel. I can help protect you and move you in the right direction faster.

Oh I WISH I could... but (of course)  I can't. 

This is a complicated biological situation, and infertility isn't effort-based, merit-based, or one bit fair (which sucks). I promise I will do everything in my power to serve your wholeness and abundance every step of the way. But I don't have a crystal ball and I don't get to choose who gets pregnant. 

What I think I can guarantee is that no matter where your journey takes you or how much longer you have until you find out your "end," this program will help you feel stronger and make your best choices every step of the way. And I know that'll lead you to amazing places (even if it's not the place you thought you were headed when you began).

There's a real danger in thinking pregnancy is the MAIN goal. A healthy life, mom/parent, and child are the real goal. I know that if you want to be a parent you can get there. I don't know how many twists and turns it'll take, but I do know this program will make every step clearer and easier.

There is a 14-day money-back guarantee too. Click on that FAQ link for more info. 

Oh hells-to-the-no!!! I know you’ve probably already had roughly a-million-and-one recommendations from everyone from your best-friend’s co-worker to that amped up over-sharer in the grocery store. Rest assured, this program is about the opposite of adding more and feeling overwhelmed.

I want to give you both the inspiration and the solid science to motivate you step-back and think about what actually works, which is often about subtracting and paring down and getting super customized not doing more! 

The only things I want you to add are the things you actually crave like joy, connection, and rest (and only after you cut out that other stuff that's slowing you down and making this more uphill). And remember, there’s a 14 day money back guarantee, so if you find the program still feels like too much, you can step away.

Yes! The focus of TBYW is on education and moving towards wholeness and balance. There’s not a single diagnosis ( or lack of diagnosis for that matter ) that won’t benefit from these things. I'm not saying it’s a magic fix for everything. But I do know, any treatments you need to do will work better and you’ll handle them better if you’re more healthy, abundant, and supported. 

So male-factor, unexplained, ovarian reserve issues, PCOS, endometriosis, anatomical issues and more will all be a great fit for TBYW.

Even if you're pursuing adoption. I want you in the program. YOU matter and I want to support you whatever path gets you to the baby you so whole-heartedly long for.

If you are looking for a quick fix or don’t want to take time to get truly educated on your fertility, then this program is probably not for you. 

We would love to eventually have the program translated, but right now it is only in English (with an occational Midwest accent no less - go ahead, you can call me on it) :P

That’s for you to ultimately decide, but I don’t think so at all!  Let’s say you get pregnant - hurrah! congrats! Yaaaaay! - but also it’s not like the pressure and stress will magically go away. TBYW program will still have tons you can use for everything from setting boundaries with your mother-in-law and learning to reframe pregnancy unknowns and anxiety to understanding your body so you can better understand what’s happening throughout pregnancy and beyond (there's even specific videos about pregnancy after infertility, bleeding in pregnancy, recurrent loss, miscarriage,  and more).  

And, let’s say you don’t get pregnant, or worse, you get pregnant and suffer a loss - ugh! - you’ll be glad to have spent the last 2 or 3 or 10+ really intense and possibly traumatic weeks feeling more supported and getting more big picture (and that'll be great for whatever comes next). In other words, there’s never a bad time to get more whole and be proactive about your quality of life and mental health on this journey.

You are the top expert on you, so if you're gut is saying join, please do!

I generally like to encourage people to trust their bodies and be patient for a reasonable amount of time - at least 3-4 months for most situations (TTC is a lot about odds after all). But if you already know you have some hormonal concerns or feel like you're rapidly heading down the rabbit hole of anxiety and overwhelm (I know this tendency well myself), or for any other reason feel in your gut like this program is right for you please SIGN UP! I trust your judgment and I'm so glad you're here! 

 The world of infertility is suuuper vulnerable and all-too-often both holistic and medical treatments are inaccessible to folks with lower income levels.

The Baby You Want is about health on EVERY level and that means financial and social too! We're committed to finding a balance between keeping TBYW program and our family / budget healthy (we're a husband and wife team) and making sure as many people in as many places can have access to this life-changing fertility-promoting education.

We offer both a lifetime membership and monthly subscription rate and you can always find the current enrollment amount near the bottom of this page or when you click to join.

If cost is an obstacle and you still want to join this program and community, please fill out our scholarship request form which is listed in the footer (very bottom) of this page.  

Lifetime members get two *virtual consult visits with Nicole as part of their membership benefits. Paid consults can also be purchased by any TBYW member as needed for $75 per half hour session.

You can also get feedback by commenting on individual lessons. Nicole regularly reads and replies to these sections.

We hope to add live-group sessions in late 2022 / early 2023 too.

And if you happen to live in MN and want to do private acupuncture with me feel free to email and ask or check out my solo practice (lifehealinglife.com).

*There's a page you'll find inside your member dashboard for scheduling these visits.

Nope, not at all!

While TBYW is about being whole and abundant, everything is firmly rooted in science and the understanding that infertility is a medical condition. 

I’ll share tons of research & data to support why even something as seemingly “fluffy” as cultivating joy or finding a healthy support network, really is about endocrine function and blood flow ( and of course quality of life too! ) The future of medicine is mind-body.

Absolutely! If they're interested and willing that’s awesome. I know one couple who reached out to tell me they watch the videos together then go for walks to discuss!

And think of the fun and/or sexy date nights you could have talking about rediscovering your joy, listening to your bodies and mindful intimacy - hubbahubba!  

Even if your VIPeep isn’t interested in watching every video, encourage them to do what they can or make a point to share the ones YOU like best. After all, (if you have one) partners are a big part of your whole-life equation and when you’re communicating well and working together, it’s easier to move forward.

Nicole is a medical professional andTBYW is all about education and feeling empowered, but it is not a substitution for individualized medical care. In fact, one module of this program is about how to hone in and find the best one-on-one types of doctors, clinics, tests, and fertility care when that care is needed.

Please, do not disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking treatments. Do not stop taking medications or start new medications or supplements without a customized look at your specific risk factors, medical needs and more. For a full disclaimer, please see the Terms Of Use page link at the bottom of this site.

If you have a computer or device that can stream online videos - you're good to go! A printer is handy but not required. If you don't have access to one or prefer to keep it more hands-on (heck, even crafty), a journal and some nice pens (dare I say washi tape?) are a great, earth-friendly option. 

Not at all. In fact, while creating TBYW I heard from people in Scotland, the UK and Canada who stumbled on my private practice website and just wanted to say they liked what I was writing and wished they were closer and could work with me. Of course, that made me even more excited (if that was possible) to get this program out into the world. I'm so grateful that I now have this program that you can join wherever you are.

That said, the program is only in English and some of the test ranges and measures are in standard units ( not metric ), but those are easily converted tiny snippets of an otherwise vast program.

We’ve got a handy-dandy Contact link at the bottom of every page so you can easily reach out for anything that comes up. 

We want you to love what you get so TBYW does have a 14-day money-back guarantee. If you purchase the program, complete at least 4 full video lessons, and decide this program isn't for you within the first 2-weeks simply write us (hello at the baby you want dot com) and ask for a refund.

We'll confirm you did four lessons, ask a few questions to get your honest feedback, and issue your 100% refund. It's as easy as that. 

Currently, the main place to interact with other TBYW members is in the lesson discussion sections found under each video. This assures you're connecting with others who are working on the same sorts of concepts and is a fabulous place to connect with other like-minded fertility folks to exchange info, ideas, and inspiration as well as support each other (go ahead and vent, cry, laugh, cheer)!

Absolutely not! This is something I feel passionately about and is another place I want to challenge the typical world of infertility and fertility culture. While it is common to up-sell added items like additional programs, private label supplements, books and more, TBYW is meant as a stand-alone complete product. You will never be pushed buy anything else to fully utilize this program. 

TBWY also aims to pare down instead of add more, and so suggestions for things like supplements are fairly limited and backed by actual science. When given, these suggestions are the ones that might give you the most bang for your buck and should be discussed with your own providers. 

Yes! The videos in all four main program modules are fully captioned (bloopers reels and all)!

We accept all credit cards including Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express. We do not accept checks or invoices. There is monthly membership plan as well as scholarships if finances are a barrier to you joining the program.

This program changes lives and makes families grow both bigger and stronger. It's worth your investment!

You should always do what actually makes you feel most balanced right here and now.

If acupuncture is something you are exploring, you might like some of the diy acupressure and acupuncture research video on The Baby You Want TV ( Youtube channel ). Nicole also has a video about the research on IVF and acupuncture on that channel.